Blockages

Is this Joanne?

Yeah, hi. How are you?

Good. How are you?

Great. I just had a question. I’ve been reading your book and on the forum and listening to your CDs and I’ve realized — you talk a lot about blockages, but my blockage is that I have weight to lose, but that’s also my blockage, but losing the weight — I’m scared to lose weight.

So that’s an important issue, and that’s what we talk about with I call emotional obesity. And that issue has to be addressed before any other issue, because otherwise it’s like you’re driving with your emergency brake on; do you understand?

Yeah, yeah.

And I’ve had so many people. You’re not alone, Joanne, in this situation.

Oh, good.

Because it always comes back to people start making progress, and then something happens when they’re walking down the street and somebody says, "My God, you look fabulous," and all of a sudden they feel very uncomfortable.

Yeah, and then I’ll put on more weight.

So let’s talk about that. So tell me what happened to make you aware of the fact that you become uncomfortable when you lose weight?

Well, I’ve been trying to lose weight over the last ten years, and I think it was triggered when I’ve had friends that have made advances — very close friends that made advances to me because I was attractive, and then I’ve created this sort of — the fat that was unappealing to them, and men, yeah and now I’m sort of scared to lose the weight now, but I desperately want to.

So how old were you when that happened?

This was probably about ten years ago.

Yeah. How old are you now?

Forty-six.

Did you ever have any issues prior to that?

No.

Issues with people of the opposite sex making advances or anything like that? Like when you were a child or anything like that?

No. Before I always felt safe.

Okay. All right. So this is what I want to do with you if you’re willing to. I want to do a little visualization with you.

Great.

Which is good because I wanted to talk about some other ways you use visualization. There’s a really good way to use visualization to help deal with the emotional issues in your life. So the first thing I want to do is I want you to imagine that you’re walking down the street, okay, and you’re in your perfect, ideal shape. You’re beautiful by your definition, by everybody else’s definition. You’re just beautiful, okay, and you’re walking down the street and somebody looks at you. It’s a guy and he’s clearly looking at you because you’re so beautiful, okay.

Okay.

All right. So I just want you to sit with that for a minute and just feel whatever it is you’re feeling.

Makes me feel really nervous right now.

Yeah, yeah. So I just want you to feel that for a minute. He’s looking at you. Now what I’d like you to imagine is as he’s looking at you, you look behind you and you see this big, tall, beautiful, attractive person behind you, friendly, loving presence with wings, and he takes his wings and he kind of covers you with them, shields you with them. And as soon as he does that, you feel totally protected. You feel like this person’s looking at you, but at the same time there’s nothing he can do to touch you. There’s no way he can hurt you because you’ve got this protection that’s wrapped around you.

Okay.

Can you imagine that?

I can imagine that but my knees are shaking.

Your knees are shaking. Why are your knees shaking?

Because it makes me very nervous even talking about it.

I understand, I understand. So I just want you to imagine it, and I’m just wondering if you feel any different as you’re there in this scene?

My back feels safer having someone there.

Yeah? Okay. So I just want you to be in this scene now and I want you to be proud. Proud and smiling and beaming and maybe you smile as this person’s looking at you. Not so much that you smile at them, that’s their business. People can look at whatever they want. It’s got nothing to do with you. The important thing is you feel nothing, you don’t feel threatened, you feel safe. So I want you to just imagine that you’re walking down the street now, that guy passed, and this presence is sort of always there whenever you need it. And another person walks by and they look at you, and as soon as they look at you this presence is there just to shield you, and just sort of like your own personal protection.

My own bodyguard.

Yeah. Your own bodyguard which allows you to be as fit and as beautiful and as vibrant and as healthy and as happy as you want to be and, at the same time, totally fearless.

Yeah. That’s something I haven’t felt in a long time.

Are you feeling that now?

A little bit. I think that’s something I’ll have to practice a lot.

Because what I want you to do is as you’re going to sleep at night, I want you to imagine the scene where your perfect, ideal, beautiful shape, perfect, exactly the way you want to be, perfect, ideal shape and, at the same time, when people are looking at you, you can just smile and be open and happy and comfortable knowing that you have this protection.

That’s a nice thought.

So I want you to just to have that scene as you go to sleep at night and realize that that’s the you that you’re creating for yourself. A confident, safe, vibrant, healthy, happy, fit you, and use that vision as a magnet to guide you so that all the things that happen in your life lead you toward becoming this person, because that’s the real you. You want to be beautiful, you want to show you — to allow yourself to just radiate your true beauty in a fearless, and you have every right to do that. And the safer you feel doing that, the easier it will become.

Yeah. That’s good. You’ve nailed that one there.

Okay. So I just want you to have that visualization as you’re going to sleep. and then maybe check back with me in January when we do our webinar.

Okay. Next month. All right. Thank you very much, Jon.

Thanks.